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[Poll #1131237]

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[onnotangu.livejournal.com]

I'm still under the idea that I would like to get married some day. I know it's alotta work but I'd like to at least say that I've been there.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

I want a LTR, I am just not sure I even want to LIVE with the man.


and CERTAINLY not while Con is still in school

[onnotangu.livejournal.com]

I have a plan. I know it's stupid but 2 years of dating, one year of living together and after that marriage. if you can get through the first 3 years the rest is easy.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

doesn't sound stupid.

[onnotangu.livejournal.com]

also getting a credit report early on helps.

[rawks0me0rama.livejournal.com]

As someone who has been in an LTR for over 15 years, but never married, I have to say I'd agree with you!

[squidflakes.livejournal.com]

I should have waited. I jumped far too soon.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

you are still married, right?

[squidflakes.livejournal.com]

yeah. i'm in that place where I'm having to convince myself that the comfort of staying put is more detrimental than the pain of change. Or something like that.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

rough spot. good luck with that

[meowvatar.livejournal.com]

Other than choosing to hang with God, by far the best decision I ever made, bar none!

[motherpuckett.livejournal.com]

I met and started dating my husband when I was 23 but we were not married until I was 30 and he was 35 (after four years of living together). I wouldn't change a thing.

[lemistress.livejournal.com]

but then again I never got married in the first place

[eonblue21.livejournal.com]

i'm essentially married --- been living with samantha for a long time and been with her 5+ years --- i'm glad we are together -- it's nice to have someone you love there every day to spend time with you and cheer you up when you are down, etc. i think if you find the right person there's no reason to regret marriage --- i'm truly happy 200%

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

nope. Not the same. things change when people get married.

Marry her, then we will revisit this in 10 years.

[eonblue21.livejournal.com]

I really don't see how much things can change after marriage if ive been with someone for over 5 years --- we share the same bank account, bills, we do our taxes together --- unless the actual ACT of marriage is cursed I don't really see where a change would occur

but yeah -- ill still be blogging 10 years from now, so you'll know the outcome

[eonblue21.livejournal.com]

geesh, 10 years from now ... man i'll be like 36 :(

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

you, sir, can suck it.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

if it wasn't so different, men and women wouldn't have such internal conflict over actually getting married.

[eonblue21.livejournal.com]

our reason for not getting married is that when we do we want to have a decent wedding with family and friends, and financially we have more important things to do then party -- besides, both of us agree that marriage is just a piece of paper in the grand scheme of things -- the connection we have is not going to be any stronger because of a piece of paper

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

I wasn't speaking specifically of you two.

[eonblue21.livejournal.com]

Yeah I know. I was just giving you some info that you might find useful for the question(s) you are asking :)

i think there's a lot of couples nowadays that are in the same mindset as we are

[lemistress.livejournal.com]

My reason for not getting married is that I don't want to be taxes at a higher rate for it.

[nuclearshimmer.livejournal.com]

Exactly =)

[juciest.livejournal.com]

I miss my husband very much, and I would love to find something similar again someday, if that's possible. After 5 1/2 years, I'm beginning to have my doubts.

[iamgeekgoddess.livejournal.com]

Never again...

[rainygirl.livejournal.com]

yes, I plan to get married again, just not to the same person.

[psychgurl.livejournal.com]

If I had to get married all over again to Chris - I would (it's the newlywed in me). However, during our premarital counseling we talked with the JP and he asked each of us that should something happen (divorce, death), would we remarry. I said no. Chris said yes.

My parents have a combined 7 marriages and I always promised myself I wouldn't make a mockery like they have out of the concept of marriage. I believe once is what you get.

[mehnaravenstar.livejournal.com]

I'm 25, and my divorce was final on 1.14. I've met a wonderful man since then, but still, no way in hell am I ever doing that again.

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Your list is too narrow. You didn't give the options of "Maybe" or "Probably."

The middle of a person's life is a point where they start looking back and wondering what might have been. Not saying "yes" doesn't mean "no," it could just mean "I'm thinking, I'm thinking."

[rubygloomrox.livejournal.com]

I don't ever want to get married again unless it is to my ex-husband. He feels the same way. We are best friends.
My dad is about to get married for the third time to a woman getting married for the fourth time. I do not understand this at all. I will just live with the boy and enjoy our time together as much as I can. But I can't see us married.

[lil-ms-drama.livejournal.com]

Yes I would do it again. No it would not be to the same person.

[lil-ms-drama.livejournal.com]

I should clarify. Even if it were a possiblity, I wouldn't marry Cliff if my 24 year old self knew what my 29 year old self (pre-death) knew. He was quite a jerk and being with Dale I see that I'm being treated MUCH better.