Sick fucking bastard

[sereneorange]

I went out Saturday night with my friends Tiffany and Juan and Juan's friends, James, Vlad, and Chilly at DJ's Sports bar and restaurant (the fried asparagus is delicious by the way) out in Fresno or Arcola on the edge of Houston. It is near the Teal Run subdivision which Tiffany and I have dubbed "Foreclosure Run" because every time she abstracts and I examine a piece of property out there it is a foreclosure file. Things are not going well out there.

We were all sitting around having a bite to eat, a drink, and laughing and talking and I see Tiffany looking out the windows at something. I looked over and there was this man beating the living shit out of a woman. I grabbed my phone and headed out. The guys asked Tiffany where I was going and she said, "Shit! Stop her! and ran out with her phone." She knows me well enough to know what I was heading out for. They came out and told me to stop, to not get any closer to the man and woman. I have a nasty habit of jumping into those things. Luckily my dumb ass has not been shot or stabbed yet. I was really worried the last time that I was going to get arrested because I jumped the guy and was wailing on him. (That was about 9 years ago)

I was dialing 911 and yelling for the man to stop. He had a hold of her and was just beating the hell out of her. She couldn't get away. Tiffany yelled at me again to not get any closer and I saw she was on the phone with 911, so I hung up. A man and woman that was out with the couple came out and told me they would take care of it. The two of them couldn't convince him to stop. I yelled out to the man "You might as well drop her. The police are already on the way" and "Don't lay another hand on her you fucking prick" when the first plea to stop didn't work. It was disgusting . He just wouldn't stop.

She got in the truck and he was STILL on her. The friends were trying to pull him out of the truck. Then everyone got in and decided to drive off because they knew the police were on the way. I got the license plate number and looked it up with my cell phone internet thinking when the police got there, I would hand them the address and tell them where to go right off. I was so fucking pissed when it came up as belonging to Enterprise Rental car. Furious really.

911 called me back because of my hangup to them about 5 min before. I gave them the information I had. If nothing else (and I am guessing nothing is going to happen) they can get the info from the car rental place for who had the car. I hope that woman presses charges on him and I hope she made it away safely.

And while I was pissed and frustrated that I didn't stop him, I know that it was the right thing to do as Con's mother. I have to consider my safety. I am responsible for my family. I can do what I can, but not put myself in danger. I need to be there for Connor.

The guilt I feel by standing there as that man beat that woman is really hard to deal with.


 

Comments

[sdx.livejournal.com]

I understand how you felt.

From someone who jumped in though, you can really fuck your shit up.

Last time I intervened when a man was beating his woman, I got my house destroyed, my hand broken (metacarpal snapped in two), covered in HIV/HEP C+ blood, 3 days in the hospital, and I was unable to work for four months. I still have metal plates in my hands, have no grip strength, and cant put any weight on it.

He had kicked her, punched her, flung her around like a rag doll by her hair, and tackled her like a linebacker. Then he smashed every window on her car with his bare fists and slashed her tires.

She refused to press charges against him.

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If there's any consolation you can find in yourself, this probably isn't the first time its happened, nor will it probably be the last. And she's just as fucking stupid for allowing it and not getting the fuck out of dodge.

But its better than you getting involved then her taking his side after all is said and done.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

yeah.. the last one didn't press charges either.

Humans are so sad.

I am definitely not jumping in. I will continue to stay back and try to help from there

[meowvatar.livejournal.com]

Oh.My.God.

I can only imagine how you feel right now. I mean, you SAID how you feel...but still...

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

so bloody guilty. I just keep picturing her being driven off to a spot where he could beat her without our or police interference.

[fallen-x-ashes.livejournal.com]

I have deep respect for you. At least you tried.

[juciest.livejournal.com]

Ditto.

I have a 550v shock baton that I might need to start keeping with me, although I must say I've never found myself in that particular situation...just on the receiving end of the punching. but not in a long, long, long time, and I can guarantee you it will NEVER happen again. Last time I cracked a jaw, loosened some teeth and ruptured a testicle, and he never touched me again.

[shimmerdance.livejournal.com]

bravissima!

[juciest.livejournal.com]

I really wish I'd done more damage. But he got his...he later married a woman, same name as me...lmao...who was abusive to HIM, and she used to beat the crap out of him all the time.

[wakeupkent.livejournal.com]

Start carrying around a taser. That way, the next douche that doesn't stop, gets stopped.

[mehnaravenstar.livejournal.com]

You did the right thing.

[kinvore.livejournal.com]

I totally understand why you didn't get more involved, and I totally understand why you wanted to. It was a tough decision, and yes I'm glad that you didn't get hurt in the process.

I'd suggest pepper spray but you may have gotten the woman as well, and either way you may have been charged with assault. However I'm sure with the right publicity you wouldn't have faced any real time.

[shimmerdance.livejournal.com]

you did your best, and your priorities are absolutely right. Let the guilt rests squarely and solely where it belongs, on the shoulders of that miserable, dickless, woman-beating motherfucker.

[rubygloomrox.livejournal.com]

The guilt you feel shouldn't be ANYTHING near what their "friends" should be feeling after driving away with them. This pisses me off on so many levels. I still don't talk to a majority of my family over a similar situation. Unfortunately, the woman hardly ever presses charges. Or if she does she goes back on it because he is "so sorry" and "never meant to hurt her"...