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[sereneorange]

Connor is still screwing up. He is not writing down all his homework, he is not bringing his books home consistantly. I have given him great organizational tools. I have told him to write down everything. I have told him before he leaves for the day, he needs to look at his agenda, pick out the books for homework and bring them home. He doesn't do it.  I make sure he has his meds, I reward the good behavior, and punish the bad, and nothing really changes. I was hoping that they would hold him back last year to teach him how bad it is to fail, but they wouldn't do it because he was testing on 6-post high school when he was in 5th grade. I don't think promoting him when he doesn't do the work is doing him any favors. If they do that shit again this year,I am going to throw a fit. I would rather him get it now, than to fail in high school when it really matters. This is insane, a very intelligent boy who is fully capable of the work, making shit for grades. Last weekend he didn't get to spend the night at his best friends house (who goes to a different school and he never gets to see) and he didn't get to go to Splashtown with his other friend. He could have gone if his lowest grade was a C.

I was exactly the same when I was his age. But, we didn't have the benefit of medication, or even knowing what was wrong with me. I cannot control what he does when he is at school. I cannot be there to make sure he does what he is supposed to. I am going to do what I can and let it go.

He has joined Chess club. They meet in the morning. He said his teacher told him it was for people with low social skills. I almost spit out my drink when he told me that.

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[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

home schooling is not an option. I have to work. I don't dislike public schools. I would hate to see what happens to his social skills out of this setting.

[theclamsman.livejournal.com]

Pretty much figured that would be your answer. :-*

Not that this will be useful anyway, but social skills can be made up for in a homeschooling environment with extracurricular/non-school related youth groups. There are many run by church groups, Big Brothers Assoc., the Y...just gotta find the good ones. And out of the crappy hierarchial structure of "regular school", social skills might actually turn out better in those settings.

Anyhoo. I know you have to work...I happen to dislike public schools and the state of education (but then I also have a disdain for private schools for entirely different reasons). Maybe having a little Google fun and researching the study aids might help, and I'll pass any along if I find any good ones (things that I think might be good). :-*

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

he is pretty good at researching on the internet. All summer long we gave him homework where he had to research someone like John Lennon, Celia Cruz, Reuben Blades, etc...and write a report on them in Spanish.