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Sep. 18th, 2005 10:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sereneorangeConnor is still screwing up. He is not writing down all his homework, he is not bringing his books home consistantly. I have given him great organizational tools. I have told him to write down everything. I have told him before he leaves for the day, he needs to look at his agenda, pick out the books for homework and bring them home. He doesn't do it. I make sure he has his meds, I reward the good behavior, and punish the bad, and nothing really changes. I was hoping that they would hold him back last year to teach him how bad it is to fail, but they wouldn't do it because he was testing on 6-post high school when he was in 5th grade. I don't think promoting him when he doesn't do the work is doing him any favors. If they do that shit again this year,I am going to throw a fit. I would rather him get it now, than to fail in high school when it really matters. This is insane, a very intelligent boy who is fully capable of the work, making shit for grades. Last weekend he didn't get to spend the night at his best friends house (who goes to a different school and he never gets to see) and he didn't get to go to Splashtown with his other friend. He could have gone if his lowest grade was a C.
I was exactly the same when I was his age. But, we didn't have the benefit of medication, or even knowing what was wrong with me. I cannot control what he does when he is at school. I cannot be there to make sure he does what he is supposed to. I am going to do what I can and let it go.
He has joined Chess club. They meet in the morning. He said his teacher told him it was for people with low social skills. I almost spit out my drink when he told me that.
I was exactly the same when I was his age. But, we didn't have the benefit of medication, or even knowing what was wrong with me. I cannot control what he does when he is at school. I cannot be there to make sure he does what he is supposed to. I am going to do what I can and let it go.
He has joined Chess club. They meet in the morning. He said his teacher told him it was for people with low social skills. I almost spit out my drink when he told me that.
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Re: call me the optimist ...
Date: 2005-09-19 06:30 am (UTC)hahaha :)
no, seriously, that's the best thing. i feel like i'm pulling teeth when it comes to tim. remember the old Nuclear Family and the roles they played? where the wife would say "wait till your father gets home" or kept stuff from the father just so he wouldn't tear the kids a new one? well, I'M the father it seems. :P drives me nuts, because as much as i tell tim to tell me what happens when it happens, he thinks he can fix it. so i'm in the dark about things until they get out of hand. it's frustrating.