Question about friendship

[sereneorange]

If you had something ebarrassing like , oh say, your house was foreclosed on, would you tell your friends or would you be so embarressed, you would keep it a secret.

I am asking because I found out some one I was close with lost his house while we were still close (or I thought we were) and I was aghast he kept it a secret.

My other friend told me that if that happened to her, she wouldn't tell me either. She said her parents had friends that had it happen to them, and they didn't find out till years later. I tend to let my friends know about the humiliating things, too. If they love me, they will love all of me and support me and not kick me when I am down. My very close friends are like family to me.


So.. would you tell your friends, or keep it a secret?

Comments

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

you and I are not terribly close, so I would get that. This person and I used to be very close.

But yeah, I would tell you if I was late on a credit card bill.

I had to make two payments on my student loan last week because I forgot to pay it the month previous.

See? That didn't hurt.

[mehnaravenstar.livejournal.com]

Yea, I know we're not that close, I'm speaking figuratively. And, don't get me wrong in anything I say after this point because I'm not trying to be a smart ass or anything (and sometimes, I admittedly, come off that way).

I guess it's just different strokes for different folks. I'll tell you now just because it's come up in conversation; I'm over $125,000.00 in debt and I'm not anywhere near 30 years old yet. Truthfully, I don't like to talk about it... I really don't even like to think about it. I don't talk to a lot of my close friends about it because I don't like to be reminded about it all the time.

Sometimes, you just can't tell someone whose friendship you value, 'mind your own business,' without coming off as a little bitchy and rude, so you just don't say anything at all.

... it's really just a matter of opinion.

[serene-orange.livejournal.com]

I can imagine not wanting to talk about it or think about it. I often have to fight not sticking my head in the sand and ignoring things (nasty nasty habit of mine). That must feel so oppressive when you think about it.

if you factor in the mortgage, we are up there.