Happy Birthday Connor

15 years ago today (tonight actually) an amazing boy was born weighing 11 lbs, 3 oz and 24 inches long. He was beautiful and strong and such a sweet baby.

It is like the universe knew what I needed and what I could take and generously gave me Connor. I am so very grateful to have such a wonderful, kind, generous, talented, witty, thoughtful, funny, smart, and awesome person for a son. I am incredibly fortunate.

The New York Post has completely lost its shit

I don't give a crap about the cartoon's political statement. The racist aspect is what pissed me off enough to shoot off a letter explaining my disgust and how I am hoping they will be printing some sort of apology.

*hat tip to circumlocutory

Kudos to Bristol

Bristol Palin gave an interview with Greta Van Susteren during which she stated that abstinence is not realistic at all. Thank you.

I don't understand why people are so opposed to also teaching birth control. I know my son is just mid teens and we have a long road, but by his age, my father's best friend's daughter was knocked up, and my friend, Deedra was knocked up. My friend Lu, had a baby at 16, so she was pregnant at 15, I believe. 

I have thus far managed to keep my kid from having sex, and of course from getting a girl pregnant.

There is a secret to it. Want to know what it is? My sister and I talk to him about sex ALL THE TIME. We talk about what it means to be emotionally ready, what it means if a girl wants to have sex with him without them knowing each other and caring for each other. We talk about sexually transmitted diseases. We talk about condoms and birth control and how they work and how they fail.  We talk about the consequences of diseases and pregnancy. We talk about self respect and allowing yourself to be ready and waiting for the right person and being old enough to handle it.

And while I say all of this, I know that if he wants to have sex, there is not a damn thing I can do about it. All I can do is show him the path. I cannot make him walk it, so I throw in all the stuff about condoms and birth control because I don't think that my son should have to die or be a teen father because he makes a poor choice.

I don't understand why people cannot understand that you can teach abstinence  and ALSO teach them how to protect themselves. If I thought for a second Con was having sex and didn't have condoms, I would 1) sit him down and have a talk and 2) fill his sock drawer with condoms.  (and probably have a tracking chip inserted in his arm while he slept).

I hope all our talks with Connor continue to work and he either waits or protects himself. If they don't it isn't for lack of effort on my part to cover ALL the bases.